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5 Misconceptions About Porn and Pornstars
Mainstream Hollywood has certainly tried to portray what the porn industry is like. Movies like “Boogie Nights” come to mind. Most of those dramas about the business were set in the “golden age” of porn- the late 1970s and 1980s when the VHS tape revolutionized the industry. The reality is, porn, especially gay porn, isn’t like that in 2015. Yet all of us who are performers still get questions and hear the business that seem rather bizarre and dated to us.
1. Fluffers
Yes, I know you want to volunteer for the job. The bad news is, there are no fluffers in gay porn. If someone is having “trouble,” you have your co-star, or your iPad with some “selected content” to arouse you.
2. Drugs
In Hollywood’s depiction of porn, lots of performers are using lots of drugs. In reality, drugs pretty much ruin your performance as a man. In more than fourteen shoots, I have yet to encounter even one performer who was high or even buzzed while doing a scene. Those of us who consider ourselves “professional” want our cocks to be rock hard, and to be in control of our bodies to flex and look best for the camera.
3. Production crew sex
Contrary to what most viewers think, the production crew- cameras, producers, directors, lighting guys- does not suddenly drop what their doing and start having sex with the performers. They have a job to do. We have a job to do. Do they get aroused while shooting us? Sometimes I suspect they do. Most of the time, however, they’ve seen enough fucking and sucking over the years, that we might as well be food they’re photographing. They’re professionals and they’re doing what they’re paid to do. Add to that, many companies, including TitanMen, have specific rules prohibiting the crew from touching the talent. Aside: I wouldn’t mind doing a scene with ANY of our crew members at TitanMen. All of them are attractive guys that I would fuck in a heartbeat.
4. Post scene sex
If you’ve been working at the ice cream shop all day serving all kinds of ice cream, as well as sampling the ice cream, the last night you want when you get home, is have more ice cream. Shooting porn is hard work! Yeah that’s a pun, but it’s also true. You are flexing and posing muscles for hours. You are in challenging positions. You are physically exerting yourself by fucking, top or bottom, for hours at a time. And when it’s time to cum, you’ve got the mental pressure of 6-10 people all waiting on you to shoot a load. When that scene is over, (usually about six hours total) you’re wiped out. For the most part, you’re ready for a big meal (since you’ve eaten very little to look as lean as possible), and you want to sleep for about four hours. More sex is the last thing on your mind.
With that said, off-camera sex does sometimes happen between performers on the days they’re not doing a scene. If you’re in town for five days for two scenes and you have one day between where you’re not shooting, that’s when it’s most likely to happen. It’s still rare though. When you have sex for hours on-camera, finding more sex off-camera on a day off, isn’t nearly as pressing as it is for the average horny guy. I have, however, met guys who are on Grindr or Scruff hours after a scene looking for a hook-up that night or the next day.
5. You develop relationships with your co-stars
Friendships maybe. Relationships few. There aren’t many successful pornstar couples- Jesse Jackman and Dirk Caber are a rarity. Most of the time, we meet a few hours or maybe one day before a scene. Hopefully we talk, try to get to know each other, and develop some kind of cursory friendship. Sadly, not all performers are willing to invest in even that, despite the fact, it makes the scene so much better. Much like an actor in a real Hollywood movie, I want to BE my scene partner’s lover/fuck buddy/husband for that day. My goal is to get into their head and make it as real for them and for me as humanly possible. I generally won’t even text my real partner on the day of a scene because I want my all-consuming focus to be on my screen partner that day. It’s frustrating when other talent isn’t willing to try and make that kind of investment, but few seem to realize what a difference that makes.
For the most part, when a scene is over, all of us board planes and fly to our respective homes all over the country. Sometimes you build meaningful friends like the one I have with Jesse and Dirk. But most of the time, you don’t hear much from your screen partner once it’s over. I think we as performers can and should do better than that. It’s a tough business and all of us need the support of knowing we’re in it together.
“How do I get into porn?” It’s probably the most common question I get every week on Facebook, Twitter, and Tumblr. I’ve only been doing moves for about a year now, so I still consider myself a porn “newbie.” Nonetheless, the learning curve is sharp in the business, and I feel obligated to share what I’ve learned.
Porn has been an amazing experience. I’ve traveled all over the country, and even to Spain! I’ve made some great friends, shot some movies I’m incredibly proud of, and have had some really hot sex. I mention hot sex last because sex should not be your only reason for getting into porn. Porn is first and foremost a business. If it’s just hot sex you want, you can find that without the challenges that come with working in the industry.
1. Before you ask HOW, think very carefully
You will not be able to conceal you’ve done porn. Your friends and family WILL find out. If that’s going to be an issue, than forget about it. There are certain fields where doing movies could disqualify you from employment- clergy and teaching for example. A porn career is usually 3-5 years at best. Consider what you plan to do after that and whether porn would cause you problems.
2. Do you have what it takes?
There are lots of porn genres these days, but the bottom line is that for the most part, men still like to see hot, fit, muscular men. Is your body in the best shape possible? Do others compliment your appearance? Do you get asked for fitness advice? Not saying you have to be ready for a bodybuilding competition, but showing up to a shoot with a beer gut and love handles isn’t going to fly unless it’s for a specific genre of porn that embraces that. Beyond your body as a whole, what are your best assets? Do you have a super hot bubble ass? Or maybe you’ve got 9 inches or more of big, thick cock? What do you have to offer to a studio? What’s your selling point?
3. Can you perform in front of others
All men love sex. All men love getting off. But can you do it front of two cameras and potentially as many as five or six people watching? Do you have the stamina to kiss, jack-off, and fuck for up to six hours? Do you have the patience to endure stopping and starting multiple times while the crew moves cameras or adjusts the lighting? Can you be agreeable and flexible to do what is asked of you even when it may not be fun or comfortable? Can you get fucked with sandbags under one side of your ass for an hour while grabbing onto a couch? Would you be willing to top if the “would be” top is having trouble getting hard? Would you be willing to bottom if the “would be” bottom is hard, but you’re struggling? If the director wants to incorporate a particular fetish you’re not familar with or may not enjoy, would you, as an actor, be willing to make an effort to pull it off and make it look hot? Whether others recognize it or not, you ARE an actor and the goal here is to put on a performance so hot, others can shoot their load watching. Your personal comfort is not relevant. Make it look hot.
4. Pictures and studios
Do have you have at least six really hot, studio-quality pictures of yourself? If not, it’s time to find a photographer and get some made. They should show you totally nude and hard, front and back. And yes, they MUST include your face. If any of that bothers you, you’re not going to be doing porn.
Once you’ve got good pictures, research the product. What kind of porn do you admire most? What studios have the best lighting? The best production value. The best editing. The best overall promotions. And the hottest men. And look at yourself, then look at the men in the productions from various studios. Do you look like them in terms of body type, body hair, and age? Find a studio that uses men that look like you do.
5. Apply and wait
Regardless of how hot you think you are, no one is just going to “notice” you. You have to go to the studio website and apply. Take it seriously just as you would any job application. Fill out every blank and answer truthfully.
Once you’ve submitted your application, be prepared to wait. The big studios get hundreds, if not thousands of applications each year. It can be weeks before anyone even looks at what you’ve submitted. Add to that, many big studios have already signed loads of “exclusive” performers. They may love your look and think you’d be amazing, but they’re already so overloaded, they can’t take on anyone new.
6. Condom versus bareback
The industry is changing. During the height of the AIDS Epidemic, virtually all gay porn used condoms. With advanced meds for people with HIV, and PreP for those who are uninfected, condoms are no longer the gold standard for every studio in the industry. As in the larger society, there are intense opinions and divisions about this in the gay porn world. We are not debating that here. But it’s important to know that some studios are 100% bareback. Others are 100% condom only. Some of the condom only studios will not work with actors that have previously done bareback commercial porn. Before you start your porn career, it’s important to decide which side you’re going to choose. What you decide will have some impact on where you work and how much you work.
7. Be realistic and do your homework
You are not going to get rich doing porn, but if you pick the right company, you can make a lot of very good money. How do you know which companies pay the most? Look at which companies have the best looking product and which companies do the best in the marketplace? Contact the actors and ask them. Most of us will not tell you exact numbers, but we will tell you what companies pay better than others. There are also other factors to consider: What kinds of hotels do the various studios house their talent in while on a shoot? Is it Motel 6 or is it a Marriott? Do they book you on the cheapest airline possible in the middle of the night or are you on a nice late morning flight seated in Economy Plus? Is it a non-stop flight or do you have a four hour layover in Grand Rapids? Seriously.
8. Beyond the movie shoot
The actual movie shoot is only a small part of your being a porn performer. If you plan to have any longevity in the industry, plan to spend about two hours per day on social media promoting your products (films) and promoting yourself. You must constantly sell your movies to the audience. Tease them with trailers and pictures provided by your studio or studios. Tell them what’s coming-up. Tease them with details from the shoot you just did. Take some “behind the scenes” photos with your iPhone (get them approved by your director before sharing). You must make an effort to connect with your fans all the time. Answer their emails. Be patient with their flirting. Appreciate their compliments no matter how many times you hear “you are so hot, I want you to fuck me.” To someone miles away from the nearest town somewhere in Kansas, you may be the hottest man they’ve ever seen. Regardless of whether you’re attracted to them or not, respect their feelings and always be gracious.
“But wait,” you say. “I’ve already been paid for my part in the movie. Why do I need to promote it? Isn’t that the studio’s job?” Yes. And it’s also YOUR job if you plan to land another movie with that studio or others. The more successful your movie is, the more likely it is the studio will use you in another one. If they know you know how to promote successfully, you’re worth so much more to them than the actor who just collects their check, then moves on to the next project.
9. Have fun
Once you’ve done your first movie, you’ll reflect on the experience as incredibly hard work, but if you made the right decision with the studio you chose, you’ll also have a remarkable sense of pride about it. Sure, we’re not doing “Masterpiece Theater,” but the projects I’ve been involved with aren’t “pump and dump” in a cheap motel either. When my first movie with Titan Men “Blue Collar Ballers” made #1 on TLA Video’s “Best Seller” list, I screen captured the list and sent it both my Mom and Dad! I never won those two Emmys I was nominated for in television news, but this still makes me pretty damn happy. I’m doing something where I bring pleasure to thousands of guys, I get pleasure myself, and I get paid for it. It’s not for everyone. It works for me.
